Founder of The Curation Space, Amy Fernandez Kong is a resilience coach helping young women break free from limiting beliefs and step fully into their authentic selves. In this raw and empowering conversation, Amy opens up about her personal struggles with self-worth, eating disorders, and hair loss—and how those challenges ultimately shaped her mission to support others on their healing journey.
Can you describe the most challenging moment you faced in your journey of rewriting your story, and how you found the strength to overcome it?
There’s not one single moment—it’s an ever-evolving process. The hardest challenges are internal: self-doubt, falling back into old patterns, or expecting support from people who simply don’t have the capacity to give it. Realizing that I had to become my own support system was both painful and powerful.
How did your struggles with self-esteem and self-worth impact your life and relationships?
Comparison played a huge role. I constantly felt like I didn’t measure up—in looks, skills, or achievements. That spiraled into a cycle of low self-worth. I became borderline obsessive, comparing myself to my partner’s exes—even ones from years ago—and bringing those comparisons into arguments. That was not only low self-esteem but also self-sabotage.
What role did your eating disorder and hair loss diagnosis play in shaping your personal journey?
The eating disorder stemmed from comparison, low self-worth, and honestly—boredom. I lacked purpose and direction. Hair loss, on the other hand, was a brutal shock. It was the physical manifestation of my biggest fears around appearance and self-image—and it hit me hard.
How did the pandemic and your experiences abroad influence your path toward self-love?
Living abroad during the pandemic stripped away my support systems and forced me to face everything alone. That experience taught me two things: I had to rely on myself, and I also needed community. I couldn’t do it all alone—I had to ask for help and accept it.
What strategies did you implement to rebuild yourself and foster resilience?
Thought detachment, reframing, goal setting, and self-accountability have all been key. I learned how to separate myself from the stories in my head, rewrite the narrative, and take aligned action daily.
How has overcoming these challenges inspired your career as a coach?
I’ve made it my mission to help other young women navigate low self-worth, limiting beliefs, transitions, and stepping into their truest selves. I know what it’s like to feel stuck—and I know how to break through.
What advice would you give to women struggling with body image or self-worth?
Unfollow or block anything on social media that fuels comparison. Stop hiding your body—wear clothes that fit and flatter, not ones that conceal. So often we cover ourselves with layers or makeup out of shame. But loosening up—both physically and emotionally—can feel like lifting a huge weight.
How did you navigate the feelings of insecurity and shame from your eating disorder and hair loss?
I leaned on the inner rock I’ve cultivated within myself—my source of internal strength. That’s what helped me find stability when everything else felt out of control.
What motivated you to transition into coaching, and how do you use your experiences to help others?
As a former high school educator, I’ve always loved guiding others. I naturally see the gaps and help people connect the dots. Coaching allows me to use that skill in a more intentional, transformative way.
How do you approach self-care and mental well-being now?
Routine grounds me. I coach myself, listen to inspirational podcasts, and stay active in a coaching mastermind. Structure and community help keep me anchored.
Can you share a specific tool or technique that’s helped you on your journey of self-acceptance?
I’ve developed my own method—the 5-Step A-Frame—which I now share with clients. It’s a system that helps bring clarity and momentum to personal transformation.
What role did seeking support play in your healing process?
Seeking professional help was key. It reminded me that the answers were always within me—I just needed guidance to access them.
What are some common challenges your clients face, and how do you help them overcome them?
Often, clients think their issue is surface-level—career, relationships, or appearance. But beneath it lies fear and belief systems that keep them playing small. My work is about uncovering and healing that deeper layer.
How do you balance your personal experiences with your professional role as a coach?
I use my experiences as metaphors or anecdotes to help my clients access their own breakthroughs. I never make it about me, but I draw from my story when it can serve their growth.
What are your goals for The Curation Space?
My dream is to build a sanctuary—a space where people can come home to themselves. Through curated coaching, tools, and community, I want to guide others back to their power and peace.
Connect with Amy Fernandez Kong
🌐 Website: www.thecurationspace.com
📸 Instagram: @alignedwithamelia
