Someone told me, I shouldn’t give out advice in relationships because I never had a boyfriend. But I have seen people. I have observed people. I know the way they act, how they talk to each other and how they touch one another. Many of them are married now, excepting a child or already have a kid or two. Maybe it’s because I never had my heart ripped in half or felt betrayed or abandoned. Never been cheated on or had the feeling of butterflies in my stomach.
Ok, I am leaving the chat, but guess what, I am not leaving. Sure, I never had one, but I probably know what a relationship should be. Yes, I have expectations and yes, I know none of my expectations will happen. And no, I am not waiting for a Prince Charming. I am not looking for someone right now. I taking care of myself first.
There are so many types of relationship but for today, I am talking about the romantic kind. That one, the one I avoid talking about. I gag at the sight of it and then sometimes I wish I had someone. What is wrong with my brain?!
But guess what? I know what a real relationship is. I observe and notice things. I notice that people get jealous. I can see a bad relationship on how they act toward other people. I notice the marks their significant other gives. The bad. The good. I know what a true relationship is, and I know that sex has nothing to do with it. Surprise, I am not an idiot. No applause … Go figure.
I kid. I kid. Sort of.
Ok, a relationship. A romantic relationship is something so rare because it’s different for everyone. Some people have only one boyfriend or girlfriend. Others have several. Maybe people date for only a year and then get married. Or date for years before marriage comes into mind. And some people just date for years and never think about marriage. I would tell you what I prefer, but this post is not about me sharing what I prefer. Maybe another time. Another post.
Ok, what I believe a relationship should be.
A relationship is a communication bond with two people. Honesty is key for any relationship, but it’s vital for this relationship. Because without it, how are you to trust your second half?
Doubt fills the air and then you question if your significant other is cheating, lying.
Honesty is something that allows you to open up. The little things that you will open to and be so happy about as you share more with your partner.
Then there’s trust. If you have honesty, you’ll have trust. So when something happens, you know you have each other’s back. Sure, there will be times you or your partner won’t be there right away. That’s way patience is also key. They’ll come, they’ll comfort you. Don’t assume they’ll comfort you the way want because everyone has a different way of comforting. Some do physical touch and others just comfort you with words.
Physical touch and affection. Touching the person you love is good because they know you care for them. At first, it might be hand-holding, fingers touching, hugging and then then impossibly awkward: kissing. Sure, some people prefer to have their first kiss at their wedding, but not everyone does that. Physical touch and affection is key.
It’s surprising that long ago, people were forced to be married off to strangers. And physical touch was like a forced interaction. Or some people didn’t have their first touch until after the wedding. Touch can be awkward at first, but it’s probably the best thing in any relationship
Every day we interact with other people, strangers at the store, our family and friends. But the best thing is when you can touch the person you love. Because what if you couldn’t touch that person because of a sickness or touch was illegal. I know it’s not real, but think hypothetically. Because without touch, how would you comfort, love and protect your significant other? Yeah, didn’t think about it. Thank you, “Five Feet Apart.” Also thank you for ripping my heart in half.
Today, the world thinks romance is a game and a toxic relationship is an entertainment. They forget the importance of the relationship. It’s not a relationship, it’s a desire. It’s a want. I want you, I have to have you to be happy.
And then adultery is fun, which it’s not. But if we look in society’s eyes, it’s fine. It’s the best thing. Who cares about the values of a relationship, because sex is the only important thing. Then things happen and your significant other is pregnant and you’re clueless about how to provide for you and your love.
This romantic relationship should be taken seriously. It’ll change your life. It’ll shape your future.
Thanks for reading from the single girl, who pretends she is a relationship guru.
