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NEVER ENOUGH

Enough in Urban Dictionary is defined as: a word to describe a person of the opposite sex as good looking, beautiful, or hot. Enough, meaning he/she would be enough to suit your needs. How many of us have heard this from our partner? The one person who is supposed to make us feel secure and assure us that we are more than enough. Unfortunately, they are the ones who break us down one piece at a time. We literally feel each piece falling apart. After all we do, take care of his home, cook his dinner, wash his clothes, listen when he needs to tell us about his day, and make ourselves physically available. Even with all of this said and done it never seems to be enough. They always find something that we are lacking. Having experienced a fraction of the things I’m describing, I have com...

SPIRITUAL LESSONS FOR TODAY’S CHALLENGES

“You need to find Jesus.” My realtor told me this, sitting solemnly with me at my kitchen table. I’d sent a simple inquiry about a house while thinking of downsizing. I was trying on the fit of a smaller house, financially. Inquiring online means putting enough information into the site that the realtor can scout out whether this could be a potential sale, and so here he was at my house with me, discussing my situation. It was hard to sum up my life story to him with grace: I am divorced, and I have custody of our three children. Trying to explain why this big house did not work out for me and my live-in boyfriend of six years does not sound unusual in today’s world, but it does not sound like the story of an exemplary mother. It sounds like a person who has difficulty with relationships a...

SINGLENESS ISN’T WAITING

You’ve been waiting for this. You clicked on this link because you, your single and desperate self, need more advice on how to make Singleness worthwhile. “What’s wrong with me?” you ask, possibly scarfing chocolate and watching The Notebook. “Why am I still single? I must be doing Singleness wrong. Please, O Internet, tell me how to Single.” We all know there’s an exact science to Single. You do all the right things and eventually you magically bump into The One. Not intimidating at all, right? You have to get the formula exactly right, or else you’ll end up alone forever. You have to do exactly what those lists on Cosmopolitan and Pinterest blogs tell you to do. You have to read all those “Open Letters” on the Internet so you know exactly what is wrong with boys who won’t ask...

TIPS AND TRICKS FOR A STRUGGLING BLOGGER

Hi beauty lovers, So, I took a selfie the other day, noticed all my blogging equipment in the background and thought, “I hope I can do this as a career.” It made me reminisce on the day I decided to publish my first YouTube video. Fast forward three years later and here we are! Still blogging strong… When you get off your parents teet and have bills and real shit to deal with, you start to live the life that’s there instead of living the life you love. I was getting frustrated and tired of doing all this work without reaping rewards. I was starting to forget the whole reason I began my blogging journey and started to focus on free makeup and paid ads. Yet, what I am failing to realize is that I am passionate about something! In life, we get so caught up in the mundane daily tasks and...

HOW TO BE THE MOST SUCCESSFUL YOU POSSIBLE

The road to success is long and filled with obstacles, but the end-goal and final destination never came to anyone without hardships and a whole lot of work. I was never the type of person to go along with life and let it steer me in the direction it wanted me to take me. I was the type of person who grabbed onto the wheel and drove down my own uncharted path, unwilling to simply be mediocre or “just okay” at anything that I did. Here’s how you can do the same thing: Don’t Slack I get it – school is hard, work is hard, everything is hard. Nothing in life is easy, and you learn that pretty quickly. You know the saying “dress for the job you want, not the job you have”? The same concept should apply to every facet of your life. Getting by and doing the bare minimum may seem like a good idea ...

PRACTICING NOWNESS

Your natural state is calm, content, and at peace. Not stressed. Not anxious. This is an affirmation I’ve repeated to myself a lot lately. To be completely transparent, I’m not very good at being present during each passing moment. I remember my first semester of college I was spacing out in a buzzing auditorium with over 2,000 other freshmen when I heard a guy over the microphone simply say, “Be where your feet are.” It’s been five years since that moment and it’s still some of the most influential and profound advice I’ve ever received. It’s so simple but it’s meaning is so complex; it requires complete awareness of self. We live in a distracted, anxious, busy world. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve looked up from my o...

FOUR OFF-HANDED COMMENTS THAT BROUGHT ME HERE

Sometimes casual statements summarize unknown anxieties so perfectly that they echo in our hearts and horrify us for months or years. The words puncture a place we didn’t know was soft. They eventually become inspiration for change. These are some of my favorites. “Don’t forget to get all the bits.” – Duncan Duffy, my boss in a dilapidated British estate. Duffy was so enthusiastic as he rubbed the nozzle of a small vacuum over a lollypop stick on the carpet. He thought I should be enthusiastic too. This was my life after all. At 18, I went out into the world to make my own way. I got a UK visa and flew to London. I figured fate would help me. My intentions were so pure. I ended up in the north of England. It was always misting heavily. It was cold. I worked as a general assistant in ...

TO THE TALL GIRL

Dear sister, stretch your neck. Not to the side. Upward. Crane it. If you look like a giraffe it’s because you are one. Because you reach higher branches. Because you overflow the space you’ve been allotted. Because your shoulders are temples to the birds. Because you already possess the sky.   Do not slouch in pictures. Do not notice the gap between his head and yours unless it is to see if you can pick something off the top shelf for him. Do not wish for less perspective. Do not be afraid of your own significance. You have the magnetism of a lighthouse. The musculature of a waterfall. The elevation of volcanic rock. The voice of a bugle calling forth from a tower. So sing our rally song. Author: Kathryn Schuyler Email: kathrynsch...

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